Stop Looking Behind You!

Behind – a rear position

We all will go through a period in our lifetime where the road is tough, we fall and receive bruises, cuts, heartache, disappointments, and hurt! It may Have been a time when you felt all alone and wondered to yourself why me? You may have felt as if no-one understood and no-one has or was experiencing what you were going through at that time. You also may have felt that you couldn't or wouldn't make it through; the hurt and pain was too deep to come out of. But, look at you now...you made it! What took place in the past, is in the past...you are here today and you are still standing. (As for me I'll give my God praise for bringing me out!)

So ask yourself this question...how did you allow the things of the past affect the things in your present? Yes, that period did have a huge impact (negative or positive) in your life, but what have we done with those experience(s)? Did you "Learn" from it? Did you allow it to "Hinder" you? Did you "Repeat" those mistakes again? When you go through a period in your life where it seems like you won't make it and you have no one to turn to, not sure which way to go or even how to get there for that matter; it's a period you will never forget (well you shouldn't). So back to my question...what did you take from it? I ask this because I’ve seen many go through and come out with different results. No I'm not talking about the results of the situation; I'm speaking of how they allowed it to affect their present life. What is she talking about you may be asking...well here it is:

Did you "Learn" from it? When one has learned from their past experiences they are able to recognize the lessons, mistakes and missed opportunities that were before them? When one has learned from past experiences they come out of their situation..."Stronger", "Wiser", "Determined", "Self-Confident", "Healthier" and with just a little bit more "Faith". They recognize several things: a) it was a journey that they have overcome not one that overcame them; b) past mistake(s) will not dictate and control their present or future; c) they’ll take a bad situation and use it for their good; having enough wisdom and strength to press on and not be defeated by what they went through. Looking back over their life and instead of being bitter they are able to say "I went through that to get where I am today." And "I'm in a better place because of what I went through." Now I didn't say this erases the memory. I'm just saying that instead of the memory have control over you...you have control over the memory. As for me, I always say "Thank you Lord for having the Final say!" Lessons Learned!

Did you allow it to "Hinder" you? If you’ve allowed your past trials, mistakes, hurts and disappointments to hinder you then you are in a sad place and you need to come out of it! You are allowing your past to control your present and to dictate your future. Let me guess someone is saying …”but I’m hurting”; “he or she hurt me”; “I missed that opportunity”; “I made a mistake”! Well join the club my sister or brother! Now since you’ve made mistakes, missed some opportunities and/or someone did you wrong; you now are going to let that situation and or person have even more control over you? When you allow these things to hinder you what you are basically doing is surrendering complete control of your life over. You can’t move forward and see what greatness awaits you because you are too busy looking behind you. Now what happens when you try to walk forward while looking behind you? You run into mess, miss opportunities and get lost on your journey! Why would you want a situation or an individual to have that kind of control over your life (Beside God of course)? Right now you could be missing out on blessings, opportunities, a good man or woman because you are hindered by what you keep looking at behind you. If you want to be free from your past; you need to let it go. (My saying is “Let Go and Let God) Learn from it and move forward with eyes in front of you so you won’t miss your true destiny.

Did you "Repeat" those mistakes again? Believe it they are many who don’t learn the first, second or third time after going through something for that matter. I’m sure no one wants to keep repeating the same mistakes but if one doesn’t take notes and learn from what got them in that situation that causes hurt, pain, disappointments and missed opportunities a “repeat” is what will take place. I’m not saying these are special kind of people. We all have repeated some thing’s only to get it the second time, but I’m speaking of those that keep repeating the same things and have yet to get it. You have to step back and ask yourself why? It’s time to check yourself and ask why am I allowing these things to continue? Low self esteem, no self worth, desperation, dependent, needy or (I’m going out on a limb here) you just don’t know any better? Whatever the reason is…it’s time to seek help so that you can come out of that situation. Your life is worth more then what you keep putting yourself through. Know that you were created for a greater purpose. You are worth more than the value that you have placed on yourself. Reach out and find someone that will help you come out and stop repeating. You got to want this for yourself! You can do it but the only way is to stop looking behind you and trying to change what has happened in the past!

The experiences behind us are in the rear for a reason. They can serve several purposes; which purpose it serves is up to you.

Now you know these are just my thoughts and opinions and you may disagree, but I believe we all can pull something from this and hopefully it has "Enlighten", "Empowered" and "Encouraged" you in some way.

Until my next posting remember…

"Forgive all who have offended you, not for them, but for yourself."
~ Harriet Nelson